Guest-Article-Concealed Carry with Your Significant Other and / or Kids

Concealed Carry with Your Significant Other and / or Kids

By Lynne Finch
You’ve made the decision, you gotten a permit, you trained and practiced and now you are ready to go out into the world with your firearm. Good for you! Have you discussed this with the others in your life who might be out with you? Do they know what to do if something happens? My ex-husband and I had this conversation one afternoon. It started with us getting ready to go to the grocery store, I asked him to wait while I grabbed my gun. “We’re going to the grocery store, why are you getting your gun?” I responded “if I were going someplace I thought I would need it, why would I go there?” But it got me thinking.

I asked him, if we are confronted by an aggressor, what would you do? First answer was to step in front of me. Well, I’m the one with the gun. Ok, he would step behind me. WRONG! If he was behind me, that means I can’t move without exposing him or tripping on him. We talked it through. I explained that I needed him to move away from me, on a diagonal path and seek cover if possible. That left me free to move in any direction and respond appropriately. Had we not had that conversation, and something happened, the results could have been disastrous.

Same goes for taking the family for a walk. I often advise parents to have code words for their kids. They can be used to let them know that a stranger is safe picking them up from school in an emergency. They can also be used to trigger a version of hide and seek. Teach your little ones the difference between cover and concealment. Concealment can hide you from view but cover offers concealment and protection from a bullet. Cover is preferred but, worst case, out of sight is better than in the open. Have a word that isn’t likely to come up in conversation, but that is easy for them to remember. Be walking along, call out your word, maybe “Eggplant” and have the kids scatter away from you for cover and stay there until you give them the all clear. You can practice this, make it a game like hide and seek. Just remember that they should go away from you and somewhat behind, you don’t want them in front of you or between you and the aggressor. When I was a kid we used to practice fire evacuation drills. Same principle. If you practice when you don’t need it, you know what to do when you do need it.

This gives the armed family member the ability to focus on the threat, not worry about where the others are, know they are as safe as they can be, and hard for the bad guy to use to gain your compliance.

This can be a little tough for a couple when the woman is the armed one, but guys…get over it. If both members of a couple are armed, there are great classes out there that teach couples tactics, working together, communicating and defending each other. Above all, talk, plan and know what the other will do before you find yourself in that situation.

Lastly, the best encounter is the one you do not have. Stay aware, assess your surroundings, and avoid situations that “feel” wrong. A gun is an equalizer but it is not a panacea. No matter the circumstances, you shoot, you will be dealing with the consequences for a long time. There is a saying that “I’d rather be judged by 12 than carried by 6”. Personally, I would rather all my targets be paper. But, if someone takes that option away, I am prepared to defend myself and my family.

Lynne Finch is a Veteran,  a Firearms Instructor and Author.
Lynne has written four books on shooting and personal security, Taking Your First Shot, The Home Security Handbook, Female and Armed and Living an Armed Life (available on Amazon).. She has contributed to a variety of publications, including Combat Handgun Magazine, Women and Guns Magazine, Gun Shows Today, A Black Man with a Gun and her own Blog, Female and Armed. While she has an interest in competition, her training is geared toward defensive tactics with a strong belief that the gun is the last resort.
Lynne founded Women Firearm Instructors, a supportive group of instructors supporting each other and sharing ideas.
Lynne is pleased to be able to share on Firearms Chat, and is open to any questions submitted. please sumbit your questions to the editor at and we will forward them on….Thanks!

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Hello my name is Dr. Bill and I want to welcome you to our new Word Press Website in support of our Podcast! While this is a new site, the Podcast has existed, bouncing around from site to site, for the last 3 years, and while two early homes left us feeling less then happy to say the least, our last home AZGO(Arizona Gun Owners) allowed us to make friends around the industry here in Arizona and across North America. In Fact Their Admin, “T” suggested we do our own site, so here we are.

Our Bios:

Dr. Bill’s Bio-

Dr. Bill Chachkes is a Retired Educator, Athletics Coach, and Sportswriter & Broadcaster.

He also Served 12 Years In The U.S. Army as a Chief Warrant Officer, Telling Others Where to go, what to do, and how quick to do it, as well as flying some of the US Army’s Heaviest Armed Helicopters. He is a combat Veteran Of Central America, Lebanon, Grenada, and as an Active Reservist, Panama (Operation Just Cause) and Operations Desert Shield and Desert Storm. Bill spent his final 9-1/2 years as a Member of the Army Special Operations Command, Flying Helicopters and Fixed Winged Aircraft for the 160th SOAR*(Special Operations Aviation Regiment). Aside from being a disabled combat veteran, Bill Mentors At Risk Teens, and current vets returning home “so they don’t make the same mistakes I did.” He has also volunteered at an Aviation Museum. Prior to that, and beginning in Early 1985, Bill Began a Public and Higher Education Career, which lasted until  early 2011.

He hails from the Bronx, In New York City, but spent his last 9 Years in NY living on Long Island, and currently lives in Northern Arizona near Sedona. He had never been a “Truck Guy” until he and his Wife leased a 2012 Ford Escape (“Yeah, SUV’s are Trucks Too!!!”) for a Move across Country 2500 Miles (2519 Miles Exactly!). Coming from a Military and Police Family, He began shooting at a young age. He is married to Annrose, who also does Photography work for the site and podcast as well as keeping him “on the Strait and Narrow.” At times, she can be a better shot.

While they have no “Human” Children, they are the Proud parents of “Sgt. Gator” a 6 Year Old, Olde English Bulldogge, with 568 Facebook Friends. They recently bought out the lease and now own that 2012 Escape. Gator owns the Escape’s Back Seat. Besides being an Avid shooter he admits  most of his and his Wife’s collection is inherited, he is currently enrolled in Gunsmithing school (Yapavai College in N. AZ). He spent his youth in the back of his Uncle’s Gunshop on Saturday Mornings. He Plays Guitar, Keyboards & Electric Violin. He is a Former Football Coach, Writer, Scout, and Broadcaster/Podcaster, having spent 10 years assualting the microphone regarding the sport on Blogtalk Radio. He took a break from Football media in early 2014, but returned in the Fall of 2016 to return with “Beyond The Hashmarks’ Hosted on the I-95 Sports Network. He has also been a sworn volunteer LEO at the local and state level.

Bio-Gregory Hutton-

Greg Hutton grew up in the California foothills, enjoying the vast hunting and fishing areas throughout the Sierra Nevada Mountains. Greg successfully helped business owners by consulting on small businesses and eventually started his own, a gun store that sold firearms, offered gunsmithing and trained firearms safety and shooting skills, specializing in beginning shooters.  He has also has a degree in web design, certificates in computer networking and several decades of experience building computers for himself and others. His desire to teach absolute beginners has led to helping others learn everything from Microsoft Windows to proper firearms handling in a safe and friendly environment.


In 2004, changes in health and California’s flagging Second Amendment policies encouraged Greg and family to move to Ohio where he now expands his shooting skills and enjoys being semi-retired.  His “hobbies” include reading crime data, statistical analysis and application of science to self-defense hardware and applications.  Future pursuits may include NRA training to be able to qualify as a Concealed Weapons Permit trainer for the State of Ohio and possibly obtaining an FFL to re-establish his shop and supply advice, training and hardware to his friends and neighbors in Ohio to better defend themselves. He is Married to Allison, and they have two dogs.


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